What would you do if you can relate ?

I wouldn't go either and I wouldn't want my kids to go either. I wouldn't want her to show them off to people like pure breed dogs which is what she sounds like she would do. I feel bad for your brother though because he does seem to want to see you. But there is no way I would go either. I guess all you can do is be honest with him and tell him you wish things were different but this is how its going to be.